Think About It:

No two people are exactly alike- thank goodness for that!  This means that no two people think exactly the same about everything, and that is why we disagree.  Disagreeing is normal, and in fact very healthy within a marriage, the problem arises when disagreements turn to negative conflict.  Yelling, nit-picking, and using Gotman's Four Horseman to solve problems only leads to bigger problems.  Disagreeing in a marriage is not a bad sign nor does it mean the relationship is weak, it just mean you have differing opinions.  As long as you practice positive conflict resolution behaviors and avoid the negative ones within your relationship, conflict doesn't have to be a negative thing- in fact, it can be very positive!