Think about it

Take a moment to reflect on your own relationship. How much do you do the following?

• Attack your partner at the core
• Leave your spouse feeling hurt
• Verballly assult your partner
• Leave your partner feeling rejected

Keep in mind... these things don't have to be actual to have a real effect on your marriage. If your spouse feels any of the above things, you are CRITICIZING them. Criticism can lead to worse things in your relationship. This is from John Gottman's 4 horsemen. (See Recognizing-criticism)

Now make a goal. You are not going to do this to your partner today, because you love them! Remember the old addadge: "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all."